Need is the opposite of Love. 

We use others to meet our needs.

Sweet little babies are born totally needy.

Two-year-olds, left to their natural instincts, are barbarians.

Consequences teach us to reluctantly accept the rights of others.

Need for emotional support and understanding draws us into relationships.

Need for pleasure and intimacy draws us into the vulnerability of physical relationships.

Marriage is the lifelong school for learning to love another flawed human being more than our self.

Being born again is about recognizing our flawed humanity and experiencing the grace of unconditional love.

Salvation is being freed to love as Jesus did by recognizing our shared vulnerability and flawed humanity even in our enemies.