WOW! I think I get it. Our journey is part of His and our suffering lets us into His experience. Somehow that is a whole other dimension than Jesus suffering for us or even His being with us in our suffering. It’s a being part of His suffering for all. We are sharing the love of His willingness to let go of His power, His strength, His separation from his friends. His loss of everything of value He had. Suffering of various kinds is part of that dying to self. What do we value in ourselves?  We see having it as our gift to the world, as our reason for being. Whatever it is, it is in fact not our achievement, but a gift from God.  Our value isn’t limited to that.  Jesus had powers/gifts that He had to let go of.  It’s not about power, even the power to heal or help others.  His letting go, His death was His gift of Love, not healing or winning or achieving.  That is so paradoxical. It doesn’t matter how big or small our accomplishments, the letting go is the gift.  I’ve sort of understood this, but disconnected it from suffering.  Still kind of struggling to grasp it, so can’t communicate what I’m sensing very well yet.